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How do we have sex again after meth?
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Who are we?
M and M
“AfterParTy” is a social collective made up of two former PnP sluts, who are interested in exploring ways of existing and connecting sexually, after meth.
What is the AFTERparTy?
The AFTERparTy is a 6 part workshop series that puts us back in our bodies in a new way.
The Idea
There are numerous services to assist in detox, in planning for change, and maintaining newly established behavioural patterns around abstaining from sexualized drug use.
However, for us, using was always tied to sex and sex is a fundamental part of the gay experience. So how do we get back in the saddle? It can feel overwhelming, and we may feel disconnected from our bodies or our sexuality in its entirety.
We recognize there are a lack of services, interventions, or programs to address this very specific, very real, and important part of the equation.
AfterParTy is asking whether we can be the answer ourselves.
We are disconnected from sex because we see our sex lives as tied to our drug use, but we don’t have any mechanisms to address that, and this puts us at greater risk for relapse because that’s how we know we can access sex again. We want to address that disconnect together; with other people experiencing the same thing. This is an experimental tool, because we need something to help us bridge that gap.
It involves embodied learning and reprogramming.
We aim to explore:
intimacy,
connection,
proximity,
and mindfulness.
In other words:
we have become disconnected to what can turn us on. . . so what now?
Take it easy, sleazy.
What pleasures have we forgotten about, or were too high to remember, or too high to feel the subtleties of?
A workshop in 6 parts:
Side A
Session 1
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Get to know each other.
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Who are we? What do we hope to gain from, and give to, this process?
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Get into our bodies, move our bodies, move each other's bodies.
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Listening and responding.
Side A
Session 2
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Touching, feeling, body weight.
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Body image and self acceptance.
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Closeness vs intimacy.
Side A
Session 3
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Dick talk: function / failure to launch
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Kinks.
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Disappointment.
Side B
Session 4
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Let's get physical.
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Body scanning.
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Sensory discoveries.
Side B
Session 5
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Intimacy building.
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Skin to skin.
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Belly to belly.
Side B
Session 6
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Sensitivity.
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Closeness.
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After care.
For Our Information:
This is not therapy. This is a short term social group , that is using peer led and community available tools to do a non-clinical intervention, by and for ourselves. Acts of intimacy, sensuality, and sexuality, will be explored, but this is not a sex club or sex group; it's nuanced. Yes we are pushing limits, and yes, there are subtleties. Consent and participant buy-in will be top priority at every step, this includes supporting participants to opt out of any exercise at any point. There is a need for this, there is an ethics to it, there is also a lot of research that supports the functionality of these practices, however we are doing this in a way that is aligned with our history of queer men in community , taking of ourselves and taking care of each other.
Dates:
Wednesdays, July 16th - August 20th
Time:
6:30pm - 8:00pm
Location:
The Village
***We are committed to being up-front with you and let you know that this is an experiment, a project that we want to try in our own community. We aren't promoting an intervention that we know will work, but we have been looking for something like this for ourselves and nothing exists in this city. There's some compelling evidence that supports these practices and we have skills as facilitators in these areas and hope that it will be rewarding and useful for all of us***